The Mindfluence Revolution EP 034: Terry “Starbucker” St. Marie

Terry “Starbucker” St. Marie is a business consultant, strategist, coach, and angel investor. He was recently named one of the top 100 Leadership and Management Experts by Inc. Magazine. Terry talks to Dr. Matthew today on the subject of leadership and how to be an effective leader beyond the command and control model. Terry believes listening to your team’s concerns and following through on your promises is key to converting an ‘I’ mentality to a ‘we’ mentality and it helps build trust in your team.

Key Takeaways:

[2:00] Dr. Matthew introduces Terry “Starbucker” St. Marie.

[3:55] Command and control is not the best way to lead.

[9:20] Listen to your team and their whys.

[12:55] If you build a culture of accountability, your team will do good work.

[13:25] It took 2 years for Terry to build his team’s trust.

[16:15] Why do people trust others?

[20:20] Terry talks on the importance of having core values within the team.

[25:20] How can you build a culture of accountability?

[28:45] Your team wants to be lead and given a purpose.

[31:30] Set non-financed-based goals for your team.

[34:00] People want to be a part of a meaningful cause.

[36:00] Go to Terry’s website for his free ebook and to find out more about The 8 Principles of More Human Leadership.

[37:40] Challenge of the week? Ask yourself: How do you show up as a leader?


Mentioned In This Episode:



“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more, you’re a leader.”

“If you can get personal fulfillment, you’ll be able to do your job well.”

“You have to be really self-aware of the promises you’re making.”

The Mindfluence Revolution EP 033: Self-Compassionate Leadership

Dr. Matthew Norton and Bruce Hurley talk on the importance of practicing self-compassion. As people, we tend to extend more forgiveness and compassion onto others than we do for ourselves. Our co-hosts talk on why practicing self-compassion and positive self-talk can help reduce anxiety and stress levels significantly and to overcome the critical voice that beats us down during our failures.

Key Takeaways:

[2:40] Why is self-compassion important?

[6:00] You can’t be compassionate to others and then not to yourself.

[6:50] Use the first date rule when you start to feel impatient with your partner.

[8:20] Leaders have needs as well.

[10:55] The critical voice in your own head is often the least understanding.

[13:00] What are the downsides of having a critical voice?

[16:00] When you have to be perfect in order to feel good about yourself, then there’s something wrong.

[17:25] Forgive yourself when things go wrong.

[20:00] Self-compassion reduces anxiety. It’s okay to have weak points.

[24:40] Self-compassion increases your self-worth.

[28:00] Positive self-talk is important, even Navy SEALs use it.

[30:10] Challenge of the week? Practice self-compassion.


Mentioned In This Episode:



“Now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.”

“Self-esteem is how we feel ourselves. Self-compassion is how we treat ourselves.”

“There’s going to be adversity, so how is that adversity going to impact you?”

The Mindfluence Revolution EP 032: Megan Dalla-Camina

Megan Dalla-Camina is the best selling author of Getting Real About Having It All. Megan talks to Dr. Matthew on building realistic exceptions in your career and how you can find a true balance between accomplishing your goals and not being burnt out by them. Dr. Matthew and Megan do an overview on Megan’s book  and discuss why it’s so important to prioritize your desires and professional dreams.

Key Takeaways:

[1:20] Dr. Matthew introduces Megan.

[3:55] What was the inspiration behind Megan’s book title, ‘Getting Real About Having It All’?

[6:20] What vision do you have for your life?

[8:45] You don’t have time to waste. Be clear on what you want.

[9:35] How can you bring out your personal best?

[11:55] What does your ideal day look like?

[13:45] What are your non-negotiables/boundaries?

[17:50] What’s your happiness worth? Where are your joys in your days?

[18:45] How do you create a career that you love?

[21:10] What are your three big priorities right now? Focus on those and say no to everything else.

[24:25] Why are relationships important?

[26:35] Only 20% of people are flourishing on a health perspective. The rest are just ‘functioning’.

[27:30] You have to focus on your well-being, because your health is everything.

[31:00] Start where you are and pick one small thing to improve on.

[32:30] Megan talks about her new tool kit program.

[34:40] Challenge of the week? Clarify what’s important to you both professionally and personally.


Mentioned In This Episode:

Getting Real About Having It All by Megan Dalla-Camina



“We all have passion and purpose and we all deserve the chance to express it.”

“Business can be human as well as profitable.”

“Relationships can be one of the first things we let go when we get busy.”

“Give yourself permission to do something kind for yourself.”


The Mindfluence Revolution EP 031: Connecting Motivators to Success (Part 2)

This podcast is part two of a discussion Dr. Matthew Norton and Bruce Hurley started on episode 29. Please refer back to that episode before listening to this one. Episode 29 talks about the importance of understanding what deeply motivates other people and today’s subject continues that train of thought but with an emphasis on discovering the six core motivators in people and in yourself.

Key Takeaways:

[3:00] What drives and inspires you is foundational.

[3:30] Bruce does a recap from episode 29. This is the second part of that episode.

[5:30] What are your core motivators?

[7:10] Your core motivators can sometimes be hard to find.

[11:40] Understanding what motivates other people helps you become a more compassionate person.

[16:25] Bruce talks about the six core motivators.

[22:00] Other people experience the world differently as you. There’s no right or wrong view.

[25:20] Matthew talks about the high social altruistic person.

[29:50] What is the individualistic motivator archetype?

[33:40] Recognizing these six core motivators will help you understand who is fulfilled in the workplace.

[35:30] Where people spend time and their money shows you want they value and what motivates them.

[37:45] Challenge of the week? Take the TTI Motivators Assessment exam.


Mentioned In This Episode:



“People don’t buy what you do, they buy why you do it.”

“Your core motivators are usually hidden.”

“People don’t leave jobs they’re fulfilled in.”